Dating is fun. Dating is tangible. However it can be chaotic like a badly made egg sangwedge or over hyped like the waiting line to get into Mamak (shout outs to Mamak).
However it’s a pretty inevitable activity to participate in if your gonna, you know, love?*fxck*
But much like the Ukraine, men can be highly reactive creatures, where as women like to be a little more on the pro side, a little more idea driven and pragmatically sens(itive?)ible..
.. but sometimes, just some times..
Men aren’t all that shaken by the idea of date night. But like any good worker/artist/unemployed scumbag it takes a certain level of common sense.
Essence E-zine has offered some dating advice via one-time consultant, the floetic and insightful Common (hip-hop artist/actor/friend of President Obama).
Allowing Facebook users to ask him any questions on the topic, two lucky ladies received in-depth answers from Mr. Lynn. You gotta trust the guy whose black book ranges from Serena Williams to Erykah Badu #ghettodreams
Check it out below and go cop his 7th LP, The Dreamer / The Believer hitting shelves on the 20th of December. We know women aged 23 to 35 will be.
SHANA DIXON asked: “What has happened to our generation of men that they don’t seem to want a relationship with any substance, but instead just want casual relationships?”
COMMON: I believe that we as Black men really haven’t had the chance to see what it means to be a man and raise a family. Not all, but a lot of Black men didn’t have that example of a good father, husband, and man in their home. The glorified man was the one that did have more than one woman and multiple relationships.
I also think that we have had struggles with the responsibilities of relationships, the commitment and the work that it takes. And some of us deep inside have a fear of abandonment, so we keep our love at a distance to protect ourselves from being hurt. Because when we hurt, we HURT!
PAULETTE PAYNE asked : “What is your definition of beauty, and more importantly, what do you do to make your significant other feel beautiful, even on those days when she doesn’t see it?”
COMMON: Beauty is this air and presence that a woman carries because of who she is and how she looks. When my lady is not feeling beautiful I first remind her how beautiful she is by highlighting a part of her that she knows is beautiful. It could be her eyes her skin or just her whole self. Once she is verbally reminded, I physically remind her with affection and love.
Excerpt courtesy of Essence © 2011